Urban Juliet life; Part 4

If u ask this question to Urban Juliet
‘WOMEN MAKE BETTER TEACHERS TAHN MEN’DO YOU AGREE?
This is what she will answer....
I do not agree with the above statement. It is unfair to both sexes to make a sweeping statement like that. I have had good women teachers as well as good men teachers. I also have had bad women teachers and bad men teachers.
Generally I can say that women teachers are gentler in their approach to teaching. They, being the so-called fairer sex, usually try very hard to make their lessons interesting. Sometimes they succeed and sometimes they don’t.
A class of thirty odd young children is not an easy thing to handle y any means. Occasionally there are a class or two that are more difficult to handle than others. I happened to be in one of these classes. Though we meant no malice towards any teacher, I remember making our woman English teacher cry because we did not follow what she was teaching. She did her best, but looking back I could see that she was too soft with us. Those made us fool around a bit thus disrupting the class.
She was replacing by a hefty six-foot muscle-man. The very sight of this no-nonsense Hercules made us pay attention in class. One could say there was the proverbial ‘pin-drop silence’ whenever he was in class. Did we learn anything from him? Well, we all did very well in English. We had to. It was better than being targets for him to exercise his muscle on.
Then there was this woman taught us Malay. She exudes an air of strictness that would put an army sergeant to shame. We could not fool around with her. She had a way with words that would make anyone feel small. Her command of the Malay language was astonishing. To argue with her was to get a barrage of words that we had no reply for. Tough we did not like her words I must admit we learned a great deal from her. If it had been for her I doubt if I could write as well I am doing now.
I have been taught by many others teacher. They all have their own abilities and approaches to teaching. Some of them are definitely uninterested in teaching, especially some older ones of both sexes. Perhaps they were fed up with teaching the same thing year after year. So they make lousy teachers. But for those who tried their best, which most of them did, it realise that I cannot judge them. Whether they are men or women each have their own strong and weak points. Each was good is his or her way. Sex does not determine how a good person is as a teacher.

Urban Juliet Life; Part 3

She has another question stuck in her head!!!!!The question is
‘DOES SUPERSTITIONS CONSIDER BEING SILLY, OR DO WE THINK THAT SOME SHOULD BE TAKEN SERIOUSLY?’
This is what Urban Juliet had thought.....
Beliefs that are without any reasonable basis may be called superstitious. Almost everybody dreads Friday the thirteenth, crows and the hooting of owls. All these are supposed to be associated with bad luck. Some hotels do not have the thirteenth floor because guests are reluctant to stay on a floor marked “13”.These so-called harbingers of doom are avoided like the plague. For unavoidable circumstances, there are a lot of charms, mantras and prayers available for averting catastrophe.
Nobody knows how much of these superstitions really bring about the calamities as they are believed to do. There are virtually no scientific studies carried out to confirm or deny them. So we carry on believing unreasonably and often fearfully. If ever a calamity occurs when an omen signifies so, the belief is strengthened even more. Superstitions are perpetuated not because they are irrefutably true but because nobody can show them to be untrue. So to be on the safe side, most people do the minimum necessary to prevent disaster. Risk-taking is only for the brave or foolish.
Belief is a powerful force. We are products of our own mind. When Descartes said “I think, therefore I am”, I am sure he is aware of the power of mind. As we think, that is what we are. To consider all superstitions to be silly nonsense will not be a wise thing to do. Some of them should be taken seriously while the majority of them can be discarded only when we ourselves believe them to be mere nonsense.
Beliefs like Friday the 13th, knocking on wood, throwing salt over the shoulder walking under ladders are examples that may be regarded as nonsense. Unless it does make a person more comfortable to believe them, they can be thrown away like worn out clothes. We do not need them at all.
However there are other beliefs which I think should not be taken lightly. For example, the appearance of a comet is a sign of war and pestilence. In fact history tells us that disasters did occur simultaneously with a comet’s appearance. Recently some far-seeing scientists have postulated that the comet may actually be disease-carriers. Every time earth passes y a comet’s tail, the dormant spores from the comet may be activated by contact with earth thus creating an outbreak of disease. How much does this theory hold water is left to be seen?
As for the moon, recent studies in a hospital have shown positively that lunacy is associated with a full moon may have a sound basis after all.
In the Caribbean, voodoo is a way of life. Strange phenomena occur that may see ridiculously to the uninitiated. No matter how we may try to discount the practice of voodoo, we cannot deny that it is certainly a potent power among the native who are involved with it. Voodoo has the power of life and death over them. And who is to argue??? Certainly not me, I prefer to keep away from this form of black magic. It is too risky to challenge it.
Within our country, black magic exits. No sane person will deny outright the power of these occult arts. At best, we try not to get involved in any of it. Science is virtually useless against the charlatans. A belief is more powerful than reason.
Unless one is prepared to risk life and limb to disprove a superstition, it is safest to walk the middle path. It is sheer madness to believe blindly every superstition. It is equally mad to totally deny all of them. We must have some kind of beliefs to sustain our hold on life. In my opinion, it is all right to throw away any superstitions that you believe to be rubbish, only if you really believe so. Otherwise leave superstitions alone whenever you can and ride along calmly whenever you cannot. An excited mind has the tendency to frighten itself. A calm mind can withstand great threats. I never underestimate the power of my mine.

SIX HABITS OF SIX BEST FRIENDS by WHITE CRYTAL.......

1. FRIENDS STAY IN TOUCH WITH EACH OTHER.Friendship implies a continuing relationship in which both parties involved make consistent efforts to maintain. To neglect these special efforts is to risk allowing the relationship to wither and possibly disappear entirely. We verbally communicate with each other in a way that says, "I am interested in you as a person." We ask about the day's events; inquire about what has been read; anything that transcends talk about career and parental roles. We let each other know where we are as a courtesy.


2. FRIENDS SHARE THEMSELVES AND THEIR EXPERIENCES.Without this level of sharing you may have an acquaintance, but you do not have a friend. Sharing thoughts, feelings, and experiences creates an openness that deepens the bond. Andre Maurois defined a happy marriage as "a long conversation that always seems too short." Spouses who have grown apart share only negative emotions and cynical or critical thoughts which focus only on problems and frustrations.


3. FRIENDS ARE SUPPORTIVE DURING TROUBLES TIMES, Friends must always be there for one another, not only during the good times, but also during times of emotional turmoil or personal crisis. To have such a friend in times of need is a wonderful source of strength. What helps me get through my troubled times is when Cindy gives me a hug and tells me she is confident that God will help us get through this.


4. FRIENDS CONSISTENTLY AFFIRM ONE ANOTHER. Good friends communicate a very simple message: "I like you, and being with you makes me feel good." The base of such a relationship is a deep acceptance of one another along with encouragement as life circumstances evolve. Love and acceptance should never be conditional. Such a conditional acceptance drives a wedge in the relationship that tends to deepen with the years. We seek to communicate regularly in words and deeds, in small acts of kindness and loving words, the value we find in each other. On one of our wedding anniversaries, Cindy gave me a card with the following statement: "It's one thing to be in love. It's another to be good friends. And it's a wonderful thing to be madly in love with my best friend!" That's affirming!

5. DEEP TRUST ALWAYS EXISTS BETWEEN FRIENDS. As friendship deepens, a corresponding openness about experiences and feelings develops. The price of friendship is personal vulnerability - letting your spouse know about personal doubts & sensitivities. Such information must always be respected and the vulnerability must never be violated. To deepen our trust we seek to never use a personal sensitivity to hurt each other when we are angry. We do not gossip about each other. It's a betrayal of marital trust.


6. FRIENDS LET GO AND HAVE FUN TOGETHER. Good friendships do not focus exclusively on problems or emotionally intimate discussion. Time is spent just having fun together. Good friends can let go to enjoy good times spent together knowing that they are deeply accepted and that they will be there for one another when tough times come. As married life becomes busier, humor often fades, and no time remains for fun. Stressed and tired, couples feel overwhelmed with responsibilities. They forget how to relax and enjoy lighthearted times together. Fun is a powerful tool in relieving stress.
THIS IS ALL ABOUT TEAM ~ANTER~

A JOURNEY TO NOWHERE

I sat down on the bench in the neighborhood playground squashed between my lost past and my mere future. I tilted my head from left to right. My left was these high school students that were burying their heads into their Biology workbooks. Then to my right there was this couple rushing their son to go back home as their dinner break was over. Chills ran down my spine. Is that what was and will become of me?
I just don’t get it. When I was young , innocent and gullible , every single soul I met told me to follow my dreams.....reach for the stars.....be a role model...go for your passion and etc. But where does all this go when you are graduating high school? It’s been hard enough to cut up frogs and bombarding the calculator with numbers for the last one and a half years of my life. When can I just do what I want? Do what I am so interested about? When I pluck up my courage and face them with my questions, they all sigh and told me the million dollar answer. They blame it on an abstract aspect called society. Tears roll down my cheeks leaving a trail as I thought about this.
Society ... it’s just as evil as stealing a sweet from a crying child. How long am I going to fight this losing battle? How am I going to make people realize that it’s not about the money but about the passion? How long can I survive? How am I going to do all this in just 10 solid months?
It’s so tiring trying to be among the best all the time. Trying to shine out and getting praises from people. Just when you want to give up and be normal, faces of your folks flashes in your mind. It’s like having to eat a bitter pastry in front of the crowd. You can’t spit it nor swallow it. But living with guilt and regret your whole life is not something to be proud of either, right?
Whatever is it...? I will just live my life following the flow. Regrets of my past have moulded me into a stronger person. And let the mysteries of the future uncoil it and hopefully lay a path filled with roses and probably hidden thorns for me.
As it is, I will not look back at my past filled with anger, disappointment, failure, frustration and most importantly regret. I will learn to accept things as it is and try to enjoy the beauty within it .Nor will I give up my passion.
SMILE...AND THE WORLD SMILES BACK AT YOU!!

Urban Juliet Life; Part 2

Urban Juliet has a question stuck in her head!!!!!The question is
‘IT’S REALLY BETTER TO HAVE FALLEN IN LOVE AND HAD YOUR HEART BROKEN THAN TO HAVE NEVER LOVED AT ALL? IT’S THE ANSWER IN THE STATEMENT THAT A BROKEN HEART IS BETTER THAN A LONELY HEART?’
This is what Urban Juliet had thought........
To look into the answer one would have had to have experienced both circumstances loneliness and love. Love is the greatest emotion that we can feel as human beings. However, love often has strings attached to it. Sometimes after a relationship finishes, both individual will lead separately lives that will never cross again, but on the other hand, other may finish a relationship only to kindle it at a later point in time.
Some people may argue that it is not to have something so wonderful and then never to experience it again. It has been made aware of this feeling, only to have it missing, will certainly cause a person to long for it again. However, it is possible to compare this feeling with that of having a lonely heart???You could draw the following from this perspective. Once you’ve shored your life with someone, there’s always a hole left when the person leaves you or the special bond is over. If you have never made space for someone or given space in your heart to someone then you possibly can never know the emptiness that is left behind walks out of your life.
When your heart is lonely, you have only your imagination to fill in what it would be like. In the case of what it feels like to have someone to love you; imagination just can’t fill it in that easily. You can imagine someone being happy to see you when you come home from work. But the little details that really let you know that you are loved cannot be filled in by an inexperienced imagination. Loneliness is truly a harsh reality which cannot be ignored.
In conclusion, when you are recovering from a broken heart, it is important to remember that you were once in love and these memories can give you hope for more to come. You can always remember that special feeling you had in the past as compared to having a lonely heart. It seems therefore that a broken heart can be better than a lonely heart....!!!!

This is all Urban Juliet experience.....This is all true!!!!!!She really meant it!!!!She has passed through this feeling!!!!!!

Carry a heart that
Never hates.....
Carry a smile that
Never fades......
Carry a touch that
Never hurts.....
And alwayzzzz
Carry a relation that
Never breaks........

Urban Juliet Life; Part 1........

Urban Juliet is a girl with beautiful dreams.....She is a pretty girl and smart...She have seen many problems in her life which she didn’t expected to happen. Now, she is having a fabulous life. But she don’t understand this>”WHY DOES PEOPLE LIKE TO GOSSIP ABOUT ME?!”.....She wants a life without people gossip-in about her. She doesn’t understand what the hell these people want!!!!Because of them she gets so stress up. As it is, she will not look back at my past filled with anger, disappointment, failure, frustration and most importantly regret. She will learn to accept things as it is and try to enjoy the beauty within it .Nor will she give up her passion.
Never mind, just ignore them.
Let’s talk more about her what else she doing in her life.
She is very active in sports. She is learning two different Indian classical dances. She loves to watch movies. She loves to listen to Indian songs. If she didn’t chat with her friends a day, sure she will die!!!!Hahahaha……… She has so much of questions stuck in her head….I will publish her question and the answer she have thought …….